You can be so sure that you know someone until your relationship is tested and they show their true colors. Tragically, people can be married to a person whom they loved for many years until that person changes beyond recognition. Feeling that you no longer know or understand the person to whom you were devoted can be a very frightening experience, but it happens surprisingly often.
If you are currently going through a divorce and your ex is displaying narcissistic traits, you may get the feeling that you are finally seeing the true person behind the mask. You may feel that you have been lied to for all of these years by a selfish and ego-driven person. The following are signs that your divorcing spouse could be a narcissist, and some tips for getting through a divorce harmoniously.
They reacted badly to rejection
No one likes the feeling of rejection, but most people tend to feel sad or down in response. However, a narcissist tends to react to rejection in a malicious and anger-filled way. They need to right to the wrong of being rejected by gaining the upper hand in some way so that they can feel that they finally “won.” This may mean that they are unwilling to reasonably discuss any aspect of the divorce settlement and that they take you to court so that they have the illusion of control.
They will do anything to feel that they have won
The narcissist will use anything, even their own children, to feel powerful. Therefore, you should expect to be involved in a troublesome child custody battle if your divorcing spouse is a narcissist.
Tips for dealing with a narcissist in the divorce process
To deal with a narcissist successfully, you need to understand how they think. This way, you can be one step ahead of them. If you can understand that the divorce process will be like a game to them, you can play to win.
Make sure that you take early action to create your divorce strategy so that you have the best possible chance of getting a favorable outcome.