Divorce is more than the end of a marriage. It’s also the start of the next phase of your life. There will be a lot of changes and adjustments to make. Besides negotiating (or litigating) a fair property division settlement and child custody plan, you can take steps now to prepare yourself for when you are unmarried again.
Here are five tips to help you make the transition from married to divorced as smoothly as possible.
- Talk to a mental health professional. You are going through a lot of difficult emotions and thoughts right now. Venting to your friends and family can help, but talking about your divorce with a professional counselor can be therapeutic. Your counselor can give you the tools you need to process your negative feelings.
- Figure out your post-divorce budget. First, work out what your current expenses and assets are. Next, figure out what you will be able to afford once you are the only one bringing in an income in your house. You may have to make adjustments to your housing situation and lifestyle, at least for a while.
- Review your health routine. Focusing on your physical health can help your mental well-being. Consider adding an exercise routine, prioritizing sleep, or cutting back on alcohol.
- Find the right divorce attorney. Your lawyer should be someone who focuses exclusively on divorce and family law. They should also have a personality that meshes well with yours. The two of you will be working together closely for several months. Make sure you can work as a team with the attorney you hire.
Whether you chose to get divorced or if your spouse blindsided you with divorce papers, you can take control of your future.