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There are more effective ways of negotiating alimony with your ex

On Behalf of | Jun 20, 2019 | Alimony |

Conversations about alimony frequently get heated. This often happens because the breadwinning spouse has grown tired of supporting their stay-at-home husband or wife. They don’t want to give up their hard-earned money to their ex. Their spouse may have long relied on their financial support though. They may need time to make a transition into their career. There are some tips couples should remember when negotiating alimony.

One of the best approaches to getting your ex to listen to you is to avoid ambushing them. You should steer clear from having a conversation about support when you two are in the midst of a heated argument as well.

If you’ve been married to your spouse for a long time, then you likely know when the best times are to approach them. It’s best to only do so when they’re most likely to be receptive to what you have to say. If you’ve been arguing, then you may want to wait a few hours or days to talk.

When you two ultimately do speak with one another, it’s best for you to speak from your heart about what you feel. You should explain how the money that you’re requesting will impact you and your ability to take care of your kids.

It’s also important that you listen closely when your ex speaks. You should ask questions to engage them to show that you’re actively listening. You should come prepared to offer solutions that can help keep things moving forward if you two reach an impasse as well.

When you two are discussing solutions, it can be helpful for you two to collaborate in making decisions that are uniquely your own. In doing so, you may have to compromise, so both of you can reach your desired goals.

You should repeat your needs or feelings without passing any judgment or blame if your ex doesn’t appear to be listening to you. By doing this, they’ll be forced to acknowledge you and provide a response.

Discussions about spousal support often become contentious. They don’t have to be that way though. If your attempt to work out an agreement among yourselves has failed, then an attorney can help you broker one with your Fort Myers ex. They can also help you understand the different types of spousal support that exist in Florida and help you decide which alimony is appropriate for your situation.


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