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3 mistakes to avoid when parenting through divorce

| Apr 20, 2018 | Blog |

If you are caught up in the divorce process in Florida and wondering when it will all end so you can move on with your life and raise your kids, it is very likely you may make mistakes if you rush. You are aware that you must give your partner her or his fair share of marital assets. However, you are not too happy that you must maintain contact with your ex for the sake of your kids. 

Parenting is not always easy, especially when you must learn to co-parent with your ex-spouse. There are things you can do to minimize conflict and improve your parenting schedule and relationship. Here are a few considerations to keep in mind.

1. Arguing and fighting 

Conflict and disagreements are common between separating parents. Starting fights and disagreeing with your ex-spouse about money, property and parenting duties may make you feel better because it makes things harder for him or her. However, your children are likely to pick up on the tension and may feel like they must choose sides. They might also develop misconceptions and experience feelings that may endanger their emotional well-being. 

2. Being a control freak 

It might be hard for you to adjust to having to relinquish your child to your ex-partner’s care. You cannot control what goes on in the other home. Focus on your home to make the divorce easier on your kids. Provide your children with their own space, allow them to personalize it and make sure they have everything they need in your home so there are fewer reasons for you to argue and try to micromanage their other parent. 

3. Badmouthing your ex-partner 

Anger, frustration and stress are a few of the many feelings you may experience during the initial stages of co-parenting and periodically afterward. Regardless of how upset you might feel toward your soon-to-be ex-spouse, you should never say negative things about her or him, especially when your children are around. 

Divorce is hard on everyone, not just the parents. Your kids are under enough stress and still adjusting to the separation. Work together with their other parent to minimize any potential parenting issues that might arise during and after the courts finalize your divorce.

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