When you or your former spouse have made the difficult decision to end your marriage, you will probably experience a multitude of emotions ranging from relief and happiness to sadness and anxiety. However, once everything settles down, you may ask yourself how exactly you want to proceed with the divorce.
If you and your former spouse parted on bad terms and can’t agree on anything, then you may find yourself in divorce court. However, if you and your former spouse still have a relatively amicable relationship and are willing to resolve matters cooperatively, then divorce mediation may be something the two of you want to seriously consider.
In general, divorce mediation is a process whereby a neutral third party — the mediator — works with couples to facilitate a productive conversation in which important issues such as child support, alimony, property division and child custody are discussed and resolved to the mutual satisfaction of both parties.
“Mediation is about finding a neutral ground as opposed to going to court and expecting your best case scenario, and then being disappointed or even shocked by a court decision,” said one Chicago-area mediator.
Outside of preserving an amicable relationship with your former spouse — and by extension your children — mediation can also save you both time and money. This is significant because a contested divorce can sometimes drag on for months or even years in the courts, preventing you from moving forward with your post-divorce life and costing you more money than you had originally planned.
Furthermore, mediation ensures that the important decisions are made by you and your former spouse, not a judge who is unfamiliar with the specifics of your family life.
Please note, a couple typically participates in four to eight mediation sessions lasting anywhere from one to two hours. Both sides may be represented by an attorney (if desired) and, if possible, the couple can work together to select the mediator whose services they wish to utilize.
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The following post is provided for informational purposes only and is not to be construed as legal advice.
Source: Wilmette Life, “Mediation is cost effective alternative to divorce litigation,” Jackie Pilossoph, May 30, 2013