Getting a divorce is never easy. These days, there are friendly divorces and one of the ways this happens is by divorce mediation. Of course, the paperwork needs to be filed by one of you. Mediation is a more peaceful path to separating and, while it isn't for everyone, it can be a good idea if you and your spouse can work out the details without court intervention.
What happens is that you both agree to work with an attorney, a disinterested third party, who facilitates good communication, promotes understanding and helps you both focus on the solution and helps bring about creative problem solving. This will help you reach an agreement without involving a judge.
The goals of divorce mediation begin with a focus on creating an equitable, mutually acceptable and legally sound divorce agreement. Another goal is to help you avoid expense and emotional trauma that often accompanies litigation before a judge. Finally, it will minimize hostility and post-dissolution controversy. In other words, you will be getting a friendly separation and divorce.
You may be asking why try? Why not just go before the judge and let him or her decide what is best for you. The reason is evident; you will face less frustration and will be able to spend less money getting your divorce if you are willing to negotiate with your soon-to-be ex-spouse. Divorce can be contentious and the court system is overburdened with cases just like yours.
Getting a mediator involved doesn't mean you are giving in; it means you are doing what is best for you, your spouse and for your children. Doing you research on this and choosing the right representation can make all the difference.
Source: FindLaw, "Divorce Mediation - Overview," accessed Nov. 23, 2015